Confidence = Work-in-Progress

by Ashley Thompson October 28, 2020

Believe in Yourself: Photo by Katrina Wright on Unsplash

Confidence for most is a work-in-progress. We all see people who seem like they just exude strength and confidence and this glow of self-worth. Those same people may be completely insecure and just playing a part. 

Self-doubt hits everyone in the feels. The trouble with confidence is that there is no map to finding it. There’s no cookie-cutter “how-to” guide to develop your personal freedom from that self-doubt. Don’t worry, I’m not going to be all doom and gloom here because the truth is, we all have the power. My favorite witch, said it best...

“You’ve always had the power, my dear. You just had to learn it for yourself.” -Glenda, the good witch

My girl! 

Here’s a BIG truth that I’ve learned along the way. Confidence is subjective. I may be an exceptional public speaker and to someone in the audience, who will never raise their hand for audience participation because they feel like they’ll be sick if called on, I may appear to have all the confidence in the world. HOWEVER, flip the script. That same person, when sitting one-on-one with me, starts talking about what they’re passionate about and what gets their mojo moving, their own personal glow and confidence shines through. The problem is we compare ourselves to a standard that no one actually set, it’s often an unachievable standard we put upon ourselves. 

Here are a few other “truths” when it comes to building confidence.

  • Know and accept who you are, be comfortable in your own skin - this takes work (the tough, introspective kind that won't happen after a single Brené Brown book - even though they're really great)
  • Challenge yourself to move outside your comfort zone.
  • Stop negative self-talk in its tracks… counter it with positivity.
  • Find your good vibe tribe and surround yourself with people who believe in you.
  • Find excitement, rather than stress, in the unknown. We can’t solve everything.
  • Believe in yourself.
  • Don’t be afraid to fail. We all do it at some point. It’s how we learn.
  • Stay grateful for life’s blessings. Count those blessings daily.
  • Do you. You are enough.
When it comes down to it, there are pockets in our lives where we could use a good boost in our ego. We just don’t need to wait for someone to give it to us… we can give ourselves the boost we need. We just need to accept that if we are being our true authentic selves, that’s good enough.

Leave a comment

Comments will be approved before showing up.

My Shopping Cart
Almost there! Add $40 to unlock free shipping!